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The Sacred Art of Pausing

5/9/2017

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The light switches to red. Frustrated, I stop, looking at my watch. “Why do I have all those red lights today? Really bad luck. I will be late again for class,” says the voice in my head. My body is tensed. I’m holding my breath, waiting for green with suspense. I notice I’ve been rushing all day like a “chicken without a head” we say in my home country, Belgium. And then I remember…

I take a deep breath in and out. Relax my shoulders and belly. My feet are firmly planted on the ground. I instantly feel better. The red light has become a sacred pause in my day. One that has the power to change the course of my life if I remember to lean into the moment instead of resisting it.
 
There are so many opportunities during our day to pause and consciously relax. Whether it is in front of a traffic light, when the phone rings, going to the bathroom, rocking our baby to sleep, waiting in line at the grocery store, etc. We are stuck there anyway so why not transform that moment into a “sacred pause”? ​
What should we focus on when we pause? When we focus our mind on our breath, we bring our mind back to our body. Even one breath can interrupt the non-stop stream of thoughts, worries or regrets in your mind and bring you back home. I see my breath as a dear friend, always there to help me pause and relax. Once our awareness is back with our body, we can then notice the tensions and consciously relax with the exhale. The hardest part is to remember to do all of this in the midst of the craziness.
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Maybe you even find yourself rushing through this article. Pause for a moment.
​Feel your feet on the ground.

Take a deep breath in. Pause at the top.
Exhale without control, relax your body.

When we are able to pause in those seemingly more neutral moments, we create a positive habit. Our ability to be mindful is like a muscle that becomes stronger the more we practice. Over time, we are then able to pause when we face more intense challenges: receiving feedback from our boss, unsolicited advice from our mother-in-law, blame from our partner, etc. We sometimes react impulsively in those moments saying or doing things we regret afterwards. Welcome to being human! If we can pause in the midst of the storm for even one or two breaths, we will be able to choose our response. Viktor E. Frankl says it beautifully: “Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom”. 


​According to Thich Nath Hanh (TNH), Zen Buddhist teacher, no transformation can take place without stopping. One of his mantras is “stopping, calming, resting, healing, transforming”. You cannot rush your healing. You need to create space for it to happen. TNH says that when we relax, we “become calm water, and we will reflect reality as it is. If we’re not calm, the image we reflect will be distorted. When the image is distorted by our minds, it’s not the reality, and it causes lots of suffering.”
 
So why is pausing so difficult? Firstly, this continuous race is a habit. We are on auto-pilot, meaning that we are not even aware of it. Often, we are more of a “human doing” instead of a “human being”.
Secondly, much of our doing is driven by our primitive brain saying: “There is something wrong. We need to do something. Something is missing.” Activity gives us a sense of control.
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It is a challenge in our productivity-driven society to do nothing, even for just a moment. We are in a kind of pressure cooker, either an external pressure -our boss, partner, parents – or internal pressure. I sat in my own pressure cooker when I was on maternity leave. It was hard to not work or contribute to the world apart from my son, Tao. 
My sense of identity as a yoga teacher or coach was on hold for that period. One day, I listened to a talk from Tara Brach, a wonderful Buddhist teacher, on “The Sacred Pause”: “Just stop. Really stop. Come home to this being. You don’t have to try to be aware. The awareness is what you are. And pausing is just a relaxing back to inhabit it.” I felt such a relief that it was ok for me to take that pause with my little angel Tao.

​If you find yourself trapped in the race of life, pause. Ask yourself: “why am I rushing?

Can I enjoy the journey of life instead of wanting to get to the finish line? Am I really present to what matters to me?” Each pause allows us to start anew. To become a new person, one we have chosen to be. And if you look deeply enough, you will see that whatever you are running after is already within you.
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    • I belong, I am strong
    • Interoception and mental health
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